Did you know that it´s okay for your daughter to experience problems that can´t be resolved?
While it´s important for kids to learn how to think through problems and identify workable solutions, sometimes there just isn´t a reasonable or possible solution. For example, talking about the amount of homework that has been assigned by a teacher won´t change the fact that your daughter needs to complete the homework and it is unlikely to decrease the amount of homework that her teacher assigns. When children think everything is negotiable and that what they deem as "unfair" must be negotiated or discussed until change occurs, they use good energy in this often futile struggle and miss the opportunity to build good coping skills instead. Instead, their frustration and anxiety may increase as they feel powerless in a situation that they mistakenly think they should be able to change. Teach your daughter to accept that some things are just the way they are and she just needs to work through those situations with perseverance and the best attitude she can. Accepting and working through a frustrating situation that cannot be changed builds the emotional muscle necessary to face each subsequent challenge with ever-increasing coping skills and confidence.
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