Did you know that focusing on making your daughter happy can sometimes hurt her?
We all want our children to be happy and it feels good to see a smile on your daughter´s face… but, it´s not always possible. Even when we put reasonable limits in place, children will often try to bargain and make adults question the fairness of their decisions (ex: "Everyone else´s parents let them do it!"; "I don´t see why you can´t trust me and my friends to be ok in the house when you´re not here…") If your limits become negotiable, your message regarding values and what is appropriate becomes unclear and your daughter´s sense of your stability as a parent in charge of knowing what is appropriate suffer. Children look to our limits for the safety and stability they provide. Deciding on appropriate limits for your daughter and sticking to them will help your daughter understand your values and develop her own sense of right/wrong as she increases her independence.
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